· Denial of illness
· Increased isolation from friends and family
· Increased irritability, tearfulness
· Hyperactive, restless
· Eats very slowly, cutting food into little pieces
· Glands appear swollen
· Likes to cook, and likes for others to eat
What to do if you think someone has an eating disorder:
· Tell your friend that you are concerned and that you care about his/her well being.What not to do:
· Encourage him/her to talk to a counselor or therapist. On campus call CPD at 4482.
· Try to get him/her to talk about his/her feelings. This will prevent the feelings from being "bottled up."
· Get support and educate yourself. It is important to have a support network as well as education in the area of eating disorders.
· Don't focus on the weight, food or exercise when talking to your friend. Remember, these are only symptoms of the problem-not the problem.
· Don't lay guilt trips, for example, "Why are you doing this to your family, me, etc.?" He/she is not responsible for your emotions-only you are responsible for those.
· Don't treat him/her as though he/she has a handicap. The more you help him/her find a different identity, the easier it will be to let go of the "eating disorder" identity.
· Don't be afraid to discuss conflicts of problems. These areas need to be brought out into the open, not hidden.
· Don't blame yourself. Friends, family, partners don't cause eating disorders, but they can help in the recovery process.
For more information
Resources: Rebecca Manley, M.S. Founder of MEDA