· Denial of illness
· Increased isolation from friends and family
· Secretiveness
· Increased irritability, tearfulness
· Hyperactive, restless
· Perfectionistic
· Eats very slowly, cutting food into little pieces
· Glands appear swollen
· Likes to cook, and likes for others to eat

Quick Tips

What to do if you think someone has an eating disorder:

·  Tell your friend that you are concerned and that you care about his/her well being.
·  Encourage him/her to talk to a counselor or therapist. On campus call CPD at 4482.
·  Try to get him/her to talk about his/her feelings.  This will prevent the feelings from being "bottled up."
·  Get support and educate yourself.  It is important to have a support network as well as education in the area of eating disorders.

What not to do:

· Don't focus on the weight, food or exercise when talking to your friend.  Remember, these are only symptoms of the problem-not the problem.

Don't lay guilt trips, for example, "Why are you doing this to your family, me, etc.?"  He/she is not responsible for your emotions-only you are responsible for those.

· Don't treat him/her as though he/she has a handicap.  The more you help him/her find a different identity, the easier it will be to let go of the "eating disorder" identity.

· Don't be afraid to discuss conflicts of problems.  These areas need to be brought out into the open, not hidden.

· Don't blame yourself.  Friends, family, partners don't cause eating disorders, but they can help in the recovery process.

For more information
Resources: Rebecca Manley, M.S.  Founder of MEDA

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